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Can let you in on a secret? (Okay, it's not really a secret at all.) There's no right way to get married! To help you carve your own path to "I do" I've rounded up all the tried-and-true wedding traditions you're more than welcome to skip, replace or upgrade to a new, improved and personalized version. Here's a ton of inspiration to help you plan your wedding, your way.


Old-School Rule: Brides Must Wear a Long, White Wedding Dress


Wear whatever you want. Sure, many choose to wear a long white or ivory dress, but for your wedding day attire, anything goes—from a short retro frock to a slinky silver jumpsuit or navy pantsuit. I've seen tons of couples put their own twist on their day-of outfits (custom leather jackets anyone?). Make it colorful, make it casual—as long as you feel amazing in what you're wearing. 


Old-School Rule: Brides Have to Wear a Long, White Veil.


You don't have to wear a veil at all. Break away from the standard veil with a chic headband, flower crown, tiara or a few twinkling pins. Or skip a headpiece altogether and show off those luscious locks (you rebel, you!).


Old-School Rule: You Can Only Have Two Wedding Colors


Your palette can have as many (or as few) colors as you want. The trick is to make sure they work together by using multiple neutrals or colors in the same family of shades (think: pink, orange and yellow, or a palette of white, cream and blush). Some of the prettiest palettes are monochromatic, whether it's a cool white, a deep green or a bold purple. But don't shy away from elements other than color, such as punchy patterns, varied textures or even a more overarching wedding theme or vibe.


Old-School Rule: Bridesmaids Are Female and Groomsmen Are Male


Don't confine your list of VIPs to one sex, or even friends who are the same sex as you. If you're a groom who's close to your sister, make her a part of your crew. Coordinate their looks with the rest of the party with accessories.


Old-School Rule: Brides Should Wear "Something Blue" to Ward Off Bad Luck


Maybe you credit luck with meeting your soon-to-be-spouse, or you might be doing everything you can to get it on your side ahead of your nuptuals. Whether you want to prevent a rainy ceremony, a hungover groomsman or legit marriage doom (come on, you know better than that!), the "something blue"


 superstition of centuries past has also turned into a way to have a bit more fun. Originally meant to deflect the Evil Eye and represent purity and fidelity, blue-hued tokens are now taking on many forms for modern couples, like a getaway car, painted leather jacket, frosty signature cocktail or even cool, blue hair.


Old-School Rule: You Should Process to Wagner's "Bridal Chorus"


Sure, it's a great standard, but this classical march isn't the only option. Have a bluegrass band play an acoustic banjo version of your favorite pop song. You can also look to your cultural heritage to inspire your music: Caribbean steel drums, Scottish bagpipes or a Mexican mariachi band are all great ideas. They don't have to stick to playing the classics either—anything from The Beatles to Beyoncé will do. (Just make sure to run your music choice by your officiant or venue first—especially if you're saying "I do" in a house of worship.


Old-School Rule: Wedding Accessories Should Be Understated.


Go ahead and make your accessories stand out. Punch up your wedding ensemble with boldly colored shoes, a statement necklace or cute bolero. Worried they'll distract from your gown? Keep your look simple for the ceremony and then add fun details for the reception.


Old-School Rule: The Ceremony Program Should Be Plain and Formal.


Programs should include important info like who's in the bridal party and the meaning behind your cultural traditions, but that doesn't mean you can't have a bit of fun with the design. Turn your programs into a playful Mad Lib, crossword puzzle with clues about your relationship, something as functional as a fan, or even make fortune-tellers with fun facts about your childhood. Guests will love the idea, and they'll appreciate having something to do while they wait for the ceremony to start.


Old-School Rule: You Can't See Each Other Before the Ceremony.